Title
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Soul
Fire Conference Singles Conference
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Place
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New Harvest Ministry
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Time
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February 8, 2014 09:00-21:00
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Speaker
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Pastor David Hwang, Blake Bentley, Pastor Peter Palma, and
more
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Organizer
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New Harvest Ministry?
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Focus
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Biblical ways for dating and marriage
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Website
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*Pls feel free to share my note with
anyone you would think he or she needs. Thanks!
I.
1st Large Group Speaker- [Jubilee] Pastor
David Hwang; “Great Break-Ups!”
1. Lesson
1)
start dating with end in mind
①
reason: number shows half of dating
relationship ends with break-ups
②
action: thus, honor, care, and respect the
person and treat them godly
③
Biblical example: Apostle Paul, he also
started his faith journey with end in mind. In 2 Time 4:6-8, he fought the good
fight.
2)
how do we need to prepare as a single?
①
prepare yourself to be the one
②
remove attraction issue: for men, stop
desiring someone and for women, stop wanting to be desired to avoid emotional
attachment
③
instead look for
A
comprehensive attraction: passion, value,
intelligence, commitment, financial management, conflict resolution, skill set,
vision, etc.
④
get to know yourself
A
some qualities of the person that you can’t
compromise with because of your future direction (e.g. for a Korean American pastor, qualities of speaking English, having a pastoral heart)
⑤
be content with the Lord
3)
God doesn’t waste people; start running for
Christ; pursue his passion now
4)
pray for your future spouse to fear God and
burn in passion for Him to be more like Jesus
5)
date tip
①
no casual dating- dating is not for fun but
for marriage
②
no unbeliever
③
date from community and share what you
learned about the person within community (e.g. close friends, family, mentors); get whole community to be involved to understand better
④
note that you’re not married yet; no sex
outside of marriage and do not get emotionally involved
⑤
don’t spend too much time together
⑥
put a time limit to from 6 to 9 months
⑦
it’s God’s timing; don’t force it; if the
person is a new Christian, don’t date him/her because the timing for him/her is
to focus on his/her relationships in Christ and let God work within the person
⑧
know that marriage is a step of faith; after
6-9 months, if you have move of God, blessings of community and comprehensive
attractions, take a step of faith for marriage because you cannot know the
person entirely in dating relationship
2. My Takeaway
1)
start dating with end in mind
II.
3rd Large Group Speaker: [New Harvest] Blake
Bentley; Lies that Singles Face
1. Lesson
1)
There is no obstacle real or perceived that
God cannot overcome.
2)
It is in the nature of Christ to love and
forgive and those who follow Christ will do the same.
3)
God is in the making of Christians.
4)
Life has already started even before
marriage. Go and get involved with church.
5)
There’s something wrong with everyone.
6)
Happiness is a decision of the will. Start
practicing now; focus on good aspect of the person
7)
God always enables His ideas to work.
8)
Jesus died so that you can have a life; He
cares even your smallest detail.
2. My Takeaway
1)
There’s something wrong with everyone.
2)
Happiness is a decision of the will. Start
practicing now; focus on good aspect of the person
III.
Break Out Group #2: [Word of Life
International Fellowship] Pastor Peter Palma; Real Relationships
1. Lesson
1)
problem of two selfish people; marriage is not about you
2) should have read Tim Keller’s “The Meaning of Marriage” before marriage
3)
two different ways of thinking
① interpretation: controlling vs. being together
②
culture: sharing food as a Korean American
vs. not sharing as a Caucasian American
③
preference: A cereal vs. B cereal
4)
help each other to be more like Jesus; learn
to love like Jesus
5)
acknowledge and admit that you are selfish,
needy and broken
6)
3 things to cultivate (or 3 things to look for
from spouse)
①
fear of the Lord
②
be filled with the Spirit
③
imitate Christ especially attitude of service
7)
keystone habits
①
do it over too many so that the changed habit
change other habits
②
fear of the Lord=> motivated to please God
③
be filled with the Holy Spirit- Ep5:18
generate the fruit of the Spirit
④
imitate Christ=> not like I do this for
you so you do this for me; serve your spouse by giving up yourself
2. My Takeaway
1)
read Tim Keller’s “The Meaning of Marriage” [link]
2)
3 things to cultivate or 3 things to look for
from spouse
①
fear of the Lord
②
be filled with the Spirit
③
imitate Christ especially attitude of service
