[lesson] SBS '힐링캠프, 기쁘지 아니한가' #162 국민 잉꼬부부 <션&정혜영 부부 편>

lessons I learned from watching #162 (c.f. link to the episode)

1. to build a happy family
A. treat spouse like king/queen
B. see and encourage the best part of spouse
C. view each day is the last day with spouse
D. change perspective on marriage from finding a gem to cutting a rough stone to become a precious gem
E. consider giving one day vacation to spouse per week to restore "womanness"

2. to have a happy first child
A. invest a lot to take care of him/her well
B. tell 1st baby about second baby before the 2nd baby to come out
C. show 2nd baby to 1st baby when the 2nd baby is born
D. have the 1st baby touch the 2nd baby 
E. show the 1st baby when the 2nd baby is with mom in a separate bedroom other than parents’
F. ask the 1st baby whether to feed the 2nd baby or not

[devotional] fear God

Blessed is the one who fears the LORD always, but whoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity.  Proverbs 28:14

[Haneul Sarang Church] 세상을 이기는 왕이 되라 (translation: Be a World-Overcoming King) by Pastor Jeong Soo Kim

Below is my takeaways from today's sermon and my personal reflections. 
1. keep Sunday holy- make Sunday separate from the rest of the week; do things to love God and others
2. make myself a place of worship where Holy Spirit dwells (a.k.a. Naioth at Ramah) 
3. put love as my highest priority in life because love is the one that I will be evaluated at the end (source: 1 Cor. 13:8)
4. choose God's way though His way seems difficult (c.f. the other way will create 1. generating risks on community let alone myself 2. making me worry by forcing me to pay attentions to watch others' opinion 3. losing joy, peace, love, and others' loyalty 4. transitioning my status from king to slave 5. changing my effectiveness to be useless 6. compromising with the world) 
5. face tribulations through keeping the law of God and evangelizing people
6. start seeking and asking to God

[Heaven-Loving Church] 감사하는 왕이 되라 (translation: Be a Thanksgiving King) by Pastor Jeong Soo Kim

Below is my takeaways from today's sermon and my personal reflections

things to do
1. keep a record of monthly thanksgiving to God
2. remove foolishness virus (i.e. not giving thanks in ALL circumstances) 
3. take thorn as God's way of expanding my love scope
- Thank Him even for one less anger incident 
4. be holy and stop giving lashes on Jesus' back
5. arrange things neatly and orderly at home
6. utilize daily check-up card
7. fully take advantage of current resource (e.g. digital and non-digital assets)
8. be true to myself and show to others candidly without wearing "masks"
9. expect and ask great things from Him; open my mouth for Korea, Korean race, and the world
10. c.f. read explanation of my "Strength Finder" result

[New Philly] The Cure for Confusion by Pastor Marcus Corpening

Date: October 26, 2014

Scripture: 1 Cor 2: 9-16

Title: The Cure for Confusion
Speaker:  Pastor Marcus Corpening

Message: 

definition of confusion by Merriam-Webster

• : a situation in which people are uncertain about what to do or are unable to understand something clearly
• : the feeling that you have when you do not understand what is happening, what is expected, etc.
• : a state or situation in which many things are happening in a way that is not controlled or orderly

God wants me to live a life of clarity. 

• todo: ask for the H.S.; walk by the Spirit if I want clarity; constantly be in connection with Him. 

Why are we finding us to be confused? Examples in the Bible

• 1. Natural man (v.14): constantly seeks for intellect, trying harder with his own strengths (this was me)
• Eph 4:17-20
• 2. Spiritual Christian (v.15-16): discerns all things, led by the Spirit, walking in wisdom, having clarity of future and the mind of Christ 
• The H.S. helps me to be in sync with the Lord God
• todo: ask the H.S. open up my eyes to discover His way when making a decision 
• 3. Fleshly/worldly Christian (1 Cor 3): knows all the right things but seeks something else, constantly living in confusion (this was me)

I don't remember the title for the following but prolly things I need to avoid?

• 1. Gratifying the desire of the flesh (Gal 5:16-26)
• 2. Grieving the Spirit (Eph 4:30 "Do not grieve the H.S. of God...")
• If I hold bitterness, the action makes hard to hear from the Spirit.
• 3. Quenching the Spirit
• 1 Thes 5:19 e.g. through holding onto fear, we quench the Spirit

Do the following to check my status with the Holy Spirit:

• ask how my time has been with the Word and prayer; when I do, how are those times? What's the quality of my heart in it?
• If I want true intimacy, I need to deal with the issues with heart. 
• ask "Am I right with You, God?" "Search me, oh, God, if I'm grieving Your Spirit." 

My Takeaway: 
I haven't let the Holy Spirit involve in my decision-making process in life in general. I have a strong tendency not to take time to pray but think through with logic. Lord, please use this opportunity to awaken me and start having you in my decision making. Amen.

[book] "구글은 SKY를 모른다" (translation: Google doesn't know Seoul National Uni., KAIST/Korea Uni., and Yonsei Uni.) by Junyoung Lee

Reading Duration: July 18, 2014~ October 22, 2014 (96 days)
Book Form: paperback 
My Takeaway: 

1. think of yourself as a lego (p.130)
2. finish difficult tasks first or do it in the morning (p.139)
3. try code.org/code academy/scratch (from MIT)
4. Betsy Winkler (p.176)
1. avoid unnecessary conflict with coworkers
2. share goal and progress
3. don't give up
5. one thing at a time
6. take actions on it 
1. "hesitating to make a decision is worse than making a bad decision" Udi Manber (p.191)
2. "1 ounce of actions = 1 ton of theory" Ralph Waldo Emerson
7. "when issues are found, tackle on problems which can be solved from current standpoint and incrementally make it better" (p.208)
8. "I tried to think how I can make my team happy when team members are working on a project, instead of how I can make this project successful. I have attempted that my team members view me as a buddy with a different function instead of their boss." (p.217)

[New Philly] Wisdom with Fitness by Pastor Christian Lee

Date: October 19, 2014

Scripture: 1 Cor 6:19-20

Title: Wisdom with Fitness
Speaker: Pastor Christian Lee

My Takeaway: 

1. My body and spirit are one and by bringing my body to an optimal state I can glorify God.

[3 John 2] our physical body needs to prosper as well along with spiritual body

2. I will add self-control to my faith. 

[2 Peter 1:5-7] make every effort to add self-control to my faith 

[1 Peter 5:8] self-control because enemy roars like lions

self-control is the fruit of the Spirit

[1 Cor 9] athletes run for prize and they keep control of themselves 

3. I will have "one more" attitude towards holiness.

[Hebrews 12:1] run with perseverance: fitness is useful because it teaches perseverance.

 e.g. In wrestling, endurance minimizes mistakes.

I will apply the philosophy of "one more" and will be unstoppable! 

[1 Thessalonians 4:3-8] God doesn't want my body in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God but instead He wants me to learn how to control my own body to be holy and honorable. 

Additional: 

listen to Pastor JM's "Stop Listening to Your Heart."

[New Philly] The Power of Agreement by Pastor Marcus Corpening

Date: October 12, 2014

Scripture: Matthew 18:18-20

Title: The Power of Agreement
Speaker: Pastor Marcus Corpening

Message: 

Ask whether I'm in agreement with God; ask whether I'm disobeying Him because of my disagreement with Him.

3 areas to agree with Him

1. who God says that we are (i.e. our identity)

• lesson: how I view myself determines how I live my life
• negative example: Saul in 1 Samuel 19
• my challenge: I haven't been seeing myself the way He sees me.
• e.g. #1
• my old belief: I believed that my sins are bigger than Jesus and I'm unsavable. 
• my new belief: Jesus' blood is greater than my sins.
• e.g. #2
• my old belief: I haven't been able to lead well
• my new belief: I am a mighty man of God leading nations to His direction

2. what God says I need 

• lesson: receive things from Him as gifts instead of trying to achieve the things by myself
• negative example: Abraham in Genesis 16
• my challenge: e.g. 
• my old self: try to find wife and seek physical intimacy in my own ways
• my new self: look to Him for those gifts
• Pastor Marcus's testimony e.g. 
• 1. God's grace on his finance when taking up pastor position
• 2. all credit card debt paid in full
• 3. flowed-in 2 mill KRW

3. what God has been calling us to do

• lesson: this comes after agreeing with #1 and #2 above
• my challenge: e.g. 
• my old self: He won't open any doors for me
• my new self: I will agree with Him in terms of my identity in Him and receive freely for my full-time position and wife; I will trust in Him by seeing the agreement in faith. 

My Takeaway: 

• Get back to fasting social media for supernatural restoration, breakthrough, healing, etc.
• I will reject all the lies I have been holding onto and start believing the truth (i.e. Jesus Christ and His promises). 

[Sooyoungro] 임재하시는 하나님을 주목하라 (tran: pay attention to God's presence) by Pastor Kyu Hyun Lee

Date: August 31, 2014

Scripture: Exodus 3:1-6
Title: Pay attention to God's presence
Speaker: Pastor Kyu Hyun Lee
Lesson: 

prepare worship during 7 days of the week not just Sunday!

Paying attention means 
- consistently focusing on one thing; your life depends on your attention
- being attracted
- being overpowered by
- loving

You need to pay attention to God to realize. 

Action items:
- be awake spiritually, meaning paying attention to Him
- need to restore spiritual senses: listening, seeing, realizing 

My Takeaway: 
I will pay attention to Him to realize!

[Sooyoungro] 기본기 테스트에 통과하라 (tran: Pass through your basic skill test) by Pastor Kyu Hyun Lee

Date: September 1, 2014

Scripture: 1 King 17:1-7
Title: Pass through your basic skill test
Speaker: Pastor Kyu Hyun Lee
Lesson: 

Calling needs to be clear.  Your calling is about your identity.

Your own way vs. God's way: God's way is always better!

Basic skill training

1. training of being alone- this training is about internal self, requiring your spiritual power; God wants you to meet with Him through loneliness; sometimes, you would need to be left alone intentionally and temporarily; meet with Him at the end of your solitude: you need to face with Him alone

2. training of material power- 

Once you overcome material power, spiritual authority will be established.

Need to go through these trainings severely!

God wants you to lean on Him regarding those two areas. 

God is the way not making a way!; don't try to find ways by yourself.

God requires obedience from you, asking you to trust Him in all situations with no conditions

Live a truly simple life!

The sovereignty of your life is in Him. 

My Takeaway: 
I will practice leaning on Him in terms of my solitude and materials. 

[New Philly] Ways to Put on Right Glasses by Pastor Sky Becker

Date: August 24, 2014

Scripture: Psalm 139:13-15, Genesis 1:27-31
Title: Ways to put on right glasses 
Speaker: Pastor Sky Becker
Lesson: 

Jesus says "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." in John 10:10. 

wrong and right glasses: 
1. comparison => thankfulness
2. criticism => truth
3. regrets => hope

ask yourself 
- what kind of glasses am I wearing these days?
- whom I am making proud of? 

My Takeaway: 
end or start each day with 5 thankful things to God

[New Philly] Get the First Button Right by Pastor Myunghwa Choi

Date: June 1, 2014

Scripture: Psalm 139:13-15, Genesis 1:27-31
Title: Get the First Button Right
Speaker: Pastor Myunghwa Choi
Lesson: 
Get the first button right.

- the first button represents understanding of God's creation

- this understanding help trusting that He is good

One of the best ways to check whether "Am I at peace with myself" is asking myself whether I am comparing myself with someone else.

Mona Lisa (an example of most expensive piece of art in the world) : Leonardo da Vinci = me : God

- the creator determines the price

Awakening: Embracing who I am empowers me!

- I have been robbed off my beauty inside of me so many years. As a result, the whole world has been missing to see my true contribution. I have leadership in me; bring what I have to the alter. I praise/compliment Him for the gift He's given me. 

- Action: be yourself in Christ

My Takeaway: 
Embracing who I am empowers me!

I have leadership in me; bring what I have to the alter.

[fasting] mindset to have when fasting

Read and meditate Isaiah 58

[lecture] 서초구청 민방위 훈련 (translation: Seocho-gu Civil Defense Training)

주제	서초구청 민방위 훈련 (translation: Seocho-gu Civil Defense Training)
장소	서초구청 구민회관
일시	2013년 04월 24일 (수) 9AM~1PM
강사	전혜숙 (전 북한 육군 대위)
주관	정부
초점	북한, 화생방 방어, 구급

I.       북한의 실상과 우리의 자세 (The real state of North Korea and our position)

1.       강사- 전혜숙 (전 북한 육군 대위, 북한 30년 이상 거주)

2.       내용

1)      군사 정보

①  병사 (3-4년)-> 사관학교-> 장교

A       3-4년 중 10번 이상 고기 섭취 어려움

②  장교 불복종-> 사형

③  만 60세까지 정년튀임 (군사훈련)

④  장교는 병사 자급자족할 수 있도록 책임져야 함

⑤  장교-종신

⑥  17-30세 군사훈련

⑦  120만 군사 중 8%가 여성

⑧  백공호 탱크 부대- 통일

2)      문제

①  식량 문제 해결 (부대에서 도적질)

A       이유- 자급자족godi gka

3)      일반 정보

①  소학교 4년제

②  근로자 월급- 2-4천원 (2012.12.20기준)

③  돼지고기- 15,000 (평양), 16,000 (혜산)

④  1달러- 9,200 (평양) 9,300 (원산)

⑤  북 예산 57억 달러- 김일성 생일 30억 달러

⑥  금수산 태양군정- 김일성, 김정은 주검

4)      Lesson

①  Freedom is not free.

II.      화생방 방어

1.       강사: 이규창

2.       북한 세계 3위의 화생방 능력

3.       알아야 산다

4.       북한 국지 도발

1)      천안함 피격사건 (2010), 연평도 포격도발 사건 (2010), 은하3호 로켓발사  (2012), 3 차 핵실험 (2013)

5.       화학전

1)      경우- 북한공격, 테러, 사고

2)      해결- 고지대로 대피, 의심 음식물 섭취금지, 실내 밀폐

6.       생물학전

1)      경우- 방독면

2)      해결- 방독면 착용, 물 손수건 사용

7.       박수

1)      손바닥-> 내장

2)      손끝-> 눈

[New Philly today's sermon] God-Consciousness by Pastor Marcus

Date: May 25, 2014
Scripture: Psalm 16
Title: God-consciousness
Speaker: Pastor Marcus Corpening
Lesson: 
The reason we don't walk boldly: we focus on everything but God (e.g. finance, addiction)
David's action: set the Lord always before him because He's at his right hand.
- right hand: represents strength

If I am God-conscious, 4 things happen:
1. I will not be shaken
2. My heart is glad
3. My whole being rejoices
4. My flesh also dwells secure

I am more powerful than I think.

What will break the abandonment and rejections I received?
- By stating the truth that who's with me and set God before me.

Result: fullness of joy

My Takeaway: 
I will be God-conscious and put God before me wherever I go.

[children education] need to abandon smart devices from children

구글 직원들이 자녀들에게 인터넷과 스마트폰을 금지시키는 이유는?

[leadership] John Maeda's traditional vs. creative leadership

I think I have lived my life with the characteristics of traditional leadership instead of the creative one. 

Thanks, John. :)

[video note] My note on Brian Tracy's Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires

link
> Lessons from Brian Tracy

1. As you sow, so you shall reap; pay price 거둔것이 마음에 들지 않는 다면 다른 것을 뿌려야 됨. 성공을 위해 열심히 일하는 대가를 치루어야 함. 대가를 미리 지불해야 함
2. 향후 1년간 이루고 싶은 10가지 기록 (w/ 날짜). 10개 목표 중 하나를 하루만에 이룰 수 있다면, 어떤 목표가 당신 삶에 긍정적인 효과를 미치겠는가? 이를 이루기 위해서 매일 무언가를 해보길 바람. 목표 선정 연습을 매일하길 바람. 매일 계획을 세우고 실천하면 상상 이상으로 삶이 달라짐. 자신의 목표와 최우선 목표를 선정해 놓고 매일 노력하면, 사람들은 점점 훌륭해진다고 함.
3. Refuse to consider the possibility of failure. 실패를 극복하는 방법은 실패하리라는 생각을 하지 않는 것. 실패는 없고 피드백만 있을뿐. 일이 잘 안되었다면 피드백을 해야함. 뭐든지 처음 한 두 번에 되는 것 없다는 걸 인정하고, 피드백을 얻었잖아라고 생각하자. 자신을 가다듬고 전진하자. 그럼 더 많은 피드백을 얻게 됨. 
4. 계속 배우기 위한 매일 3가지 실천 내용: 
• 1. 매일 30분~1시간 자기 분야에 관한 글을 읽을 것 (TV, 라디오, 신문을 가까이 하지 말고, 자기 분야에 대한 글을 읽을 것; 가장 좋은 읽을 거리는 책; 자기 분야에서 가장 성공한 사람의 베스트셀러를 읽을 것)
• 2. 가능한 한 모든 강좌를 들을 것 (자기 분야에서 들을 수 있는 모든 강좌와 세미나에 참석하고, 전문가가 수년 동안 연구한 검증된 강좌를 들을 것; 강사는 수천 시간을 연구한 주제를 몇 시간 만에 이야기 하는 것; 이런 강좌는 여러분이 평생 또는 2, 3년 동안 배워야 할 것을 2, 3일 내에 배울 수 있게 해줌.)
• 3. 차에서 교재를 청취하는 것
5. 최고가 되려고 노력할 수록, 자신을 더욱 존경하고 더 많은 에너지를 가지게 되며, 더 큰 목표를 세우고, 더욱 매진하게 된다는 것. 
6. Develop a workaholic lifestyle: 조금 일찍 시작해서 늦게까지 더 열심히 하라는 거지요 (40+ formula: 40hours/week 살아남기만 함. 발전도 없고, 앞서지도 못하고, 간신히 붙어 있는 것임. 40+는 미래에 투자하는 것. 40+를 무엇에 투자했는 가가 여러분의 미래를 좌우할 것. 백만장자, CEO는 59시간 투자. 일을 할 때는 열심히 일만 하십시오.  
7. Get around the right people
8. Be prepared to climb from peak to peak. 백만장자가 되기 위해선, 인생이 결코 쉽지 않다는 것을 깨달아야 함.
9. Develop resilience and bounce back. 저는 저에게 주어진 일이 잘 되지 않을 때, 정신력 강화운동을 함. 인간의 두뇌는 나쁜 일이 일어나기 전에, 미리 스스로 알아서 준비를 함. 일이 잘못 되었을 때, 좌절하거나 화내지 않고, 그 모든 것을 받아들여서, 잘못된 상황을 교훈삼아 자신을 다시 한 번 추스르고 일어나야 합니다. 
10. 성공한 사람들의 특징은 위기대처 능력이 뛰어나다는 것. 좌절하지도 화내지도 않고, 일이 잘못되었을 경우에도 그들은 해결책부터 먼저 찾습니다. 심각한 문제에 봉착하면 그것을 해결하기 위해서 창의력을 발휘합니다. 문제를 쓰고 정의하십시오. 쓰고 해결책을 찾아내시기 바랍니다. 
11. 인생에 큰 영향을 줄 한 가지 목표를 정했다면, 종이 맨 위에다 질문 형태로 써보십시오. 1년 내에 연봉을 2배로 만들 수 있는 방법이 무엇인지, 명확하게 써보길 바람. 지금 연봉이 3만달러 이면 6만달러가 되기 위해, 무엇을 해야할 지 적어볼 것. 질문이 구체적일 수록 좋음. 한 질문에 20개+씩 답을 써보길 바람 (예. 더 열심히 일하고, 보다 잘하고, 일찍 출근하고, 늦게 퇴근하고, 직업을 바꾸고, 기술을 연마하고, etc.). 곧 마인스 스톰해볼 것. 20개의 답을 얻으셨다면, 하나를 선택하여 즉시 실천하기 바람. 뭐든 하나를 선택해서 즉시 실천하다 보면, 계속 창의적인 생각과 행동을 할 수가 있음. 
12. Become an unshakable optimist. 여러분이 가장 원하는 것을 생각하고 말하십시오. 낙천주의자는 원하는 것을 생각하고 말합니다. 어떤 상황에서도 밝은 면을 보며 귀중한 교훈을 찾습니다. 늘 대단한 생각을 하고 새로운 견해를 내놓습니다. 낙천주의자의 3가지 특징. (1) 더 많이 배움. 결과적으로 적시에 알맞은 것을 배울 가능성이 무척 높음 (2) 더 많은 시도를 함. 결과적으로 적시에 알맞은 것을 시도할 가능성이 무척 높음 (3) 끈질기며, 포기하지 않음. 낙천주의자는 부자가 되겠다고 결심을 하면, 목표를 이룰 때까지 포기하지 않음. 
13. 용기와 끈기를 개발해 나가는 것 (Develop the qualities of courage and persistence): 성공에 대한 가장 큰 걸림돌은 실패에 대한 두려움. 이 두려움을 없애려면, 용기를 가져야 하고, 성공하려면 2 가지 용기를 가져야 함. (1) 시작하려는 용기. 성공 보장이 없어도 시작할 수 있어야 함. 아무런 장애 없이 시작하려 한다면, 아무것도 할 수 없음. 성공한 사람들은 생각하고 계획하고 결정하며 두려워하지 않음. 일단 시작하면 결과가 있음. 시도하고 교훈을 얻을 것. (2) 지속하려는 용기. 계속 해 나가려는 마음, 끈기를 말함. 포기란 결코 있을 수 없음. 무슨 일이 있더라도 포기는 안됨. 수없이 지쳐 쓰러질지언정 포기하지 않을 것. 포기란 없다고 결정하면 실패해도 다시 일어나게 됨. 용기란 시작하고 지속하려는 마음
14. 자기 통제 능력 (Quality of self-discipline): 자기 통제 능력은 좋던 싫던 해야할 일을 하도록 만듦. 자기 통제 능력은 여러분을 성공으로 이끌 것. 여러분이 해야 한다고 생각하는 것을 하도록 만듦. 자기 통제를 하면서 끈기가 있어야 함. 자기 통제는 끈기를 이끌어내고 2 가지가 서로 결합하여, 자부심을 느끼고 자신을 사랑하게 됨. 자신을 사랑할 수록, 통제능력은 더 커지고, 그럼 더욱 자신을 사랑하게 되고, 끈기가 더 생김. 결국 상승 곡선을 타게 되고, 멈출 수 없게 됨. 목표를 이루게 되고 모든 것이 가능해 짐. 앞으로 전진하면 사람은 더욱 더 강해짐. 이제 더 이상은 멈출 방법이 없음. 일단 결심하면 목표를 이룰 때까지 멈출 수가 없음. 이런 자질을 개발하게 되면, 불가능한 일은 세상에 없음. 

[conference] My Note on Soul Fire Singles Conference

Title	Soul Fire Conference Singles Conference
Place	New Harvest Ministry
Time	February 8, 2014 09:00-21:00
Speaker	Pastor David Hwang, Blake Bentley, Pastor Peter Palma, and more
Organizer	New Harvest Ministry?
Focus	Biblical ways for dating and marriage
Website	http://www.soulfiresinglesconference.com/

*Pls feel free to share my note with anyone you would think he or she needs. Thanks!

I.       1st Large Group Speaker- [Jubilee] Pastor David Hwang; “Great Break-Ups!”

1.       Lesson

1)     start dating with end in mind

①  reason: number shows half of dating relationship ends with break-ups

②  action: thus, honor, care, and respect the person and treat them godly

③  Biblical example: Apostle Paul, he also started his faith journey with end in mind. In 2 Time 4:6-8, he fought the good fight.

2)     how do we need to prepare as a single?

①  prepare yourself to be the one

②  remove attraction issue: for men, stop desiring someone and for women, stop wanting to be desired to avoid emotional attachment

③  instead look for

A       comprehensive attraction: passion, value, intelligence, commitment, financial management, conflict resolution, skill set, vision, etc.

④  get to know yourself

A       some qualities of the person that you can’t compromise with because of your future direction (e.g. for a Korean American pastor, qualities of speaking English, having a pastoral heart)

⑤  be content with the Lord

3)      God doesn’t waste people; start running for Christ; pursue his passion now

4)      pray for your future spouse to fear God and burn in passion for Him to be more like Jesus

5)      date tip

①  no casual dating- dating is not for fun but for marriage

②  no unbeliever

③  date from community and share what you learned about the person within community (e.g. close friends, family, mentors); get whole community to be involved to understand better

④  note that you’re not married yet; no sex outside of marriage and do not get emotionally involved

⑤  don’t spend too much time together

⑥  put a time limit to from 6 to 9 months

⑦  it’s God’s timing; don’t force it; if the person is a new Christian, don’t date him/her because the timing for him/her is to focus on his/her relationships in Christ and let God work within the person

⑧  know that marriage is a step of faith; after 6-9 months, if you have move of God, blessings of community and comprehensive attractions, take a step of faith for marriage because you cannot know the person entirely in dating relationship

2.       My Takeaway

1)      start dating with end in mind

II.      3rd Large Group Speaker: [New Harvest] Blake Bentley; Lies that Singles Face

1.       Lesson

1)      There is no obstacle real or perceived that God cannot overcome.

2)      It is in the nature of Christ to love and forgive and those who follow Christ will do the same.

3)      God is in the making of Christians.

4)      Life has already started even before marriage. Go and get involved with church.

5)      There’s something wrong with everyone.

6)      Happiness is a decision of the will. Start practicing now; focus on good aspect of the person

7)      God always enables His ideas to work.

8)      Jesus died so that you can have a life; He cares even your smallest detail.

2.       My Takeaway

1)      There’s something wrong with everyone.

2)      Happiness is a decision of the will. Start practicing now; focus on good aspect of the person

III.     Break Out Group #2: [Word of Life International Fellowship] Pastor Peter Palma; Real Relationships

1.       Lesson

1)      problem of two selfish people; marriage is not about you

2)      should have read Tim Keller’s “The Meaning of Marriage” before marriage

3)      two different ways of thinking

①  interpretation: controlling vs. being together

②  culture: sharing food as a Korean American vs. not sharing as a Caucasian American

③  preference: A cereal vs. B cereal

4)      help each other to be more like Jesus; learn to love like Jesus

5)      acknowledge and admit that you are selfish, needy and broken

6)      3 things to cultivate (or 3 things to look for from spouse)

①  fear of the Lord

②  be filled with the Spirit

③  imitate Christ especially attitude of service

7)      keystone habits

①  do it over too many so that the changed habit change other habits

②  fear of the Lord=> motivated to please God

③  be filled with the Holy Spirit- Ep5:18 generate the fruit of the Spirit

④  imitate Christ=> not like I do this for you so you do this for me; serve your spouse by giving up yourself

2.       My Takeaway

1)      read Tim Keller’s “The Meaning of Marriage” [link]

2)      3 things to cultivate or 3 things to look for from spouse

①  fear of the Lord

②  be filled with the Spirit

③  imitate Christ especially attitude of service